The story with one’s boyfriend or husband being stolen by one’s friend is pretty common. It’s not that the world is just like this, or stars have ceased to help you. According to the law of gravitation, there are people who are strong and people who are weak. It would have been much easier, if a person never changed his behavior. Weakness often becomes force. While strong and forceful women may suddenly discover that their ‘prey’ has been pinched by a less strong-willed rival. And her best friend at that! What should you do with this double treachery:
shoot at betrayers or pardon the ‘lost sheep’?
shoot at betrayers or pardon the ‘lost sheep’?
One should always begin with self-analysis. Asking questions like “why has it happen to me?”, “have I deserved it?” or “how could they have done it to me?” would not help you to find a solution to this psychological conflict. Step back and try to look at it as if you’ve simply failed with your simulator mission. First of, there can be more pluses in your defeat, than minuses.
Do not push your best friend aside, even if everything has come to light. Kick away your husband, but try to get closer to your friend. If she has managed to steal your man, she must have something to learn from… learn and immediately forget about it! A man ready to betray for someone’s beauty is not worth you, is he?
Talk to her (with a glass of champagne – your peace pipe) about some touching extravagancies of your ex, warn her about his drawbacks – try to become as close to her as possible, using female solidarity (we are quiet a different stamp!)
All this will give you numerous advantaged over your rival. Her amazement at your behavior will make lull her vigilance. Your easy surrender and lack of grief will hit his pride, making him more irritated and self-confident, while your close relations with his girlfriend will only ignite his suspicion and arouse doubts of his virility (who knows, what those girls are gossiping of?)
Vengeance can be as sweet as useful, and according to Friedrich Nietzsche, what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. Stick to proverbial wisdom about keeping your enemies closer than your friends. Like in a false-mirror world, make the offenders believe in their own mistake and leave to them to spoil their life. You will be rewarded with the ex-friend crying on your shoulder after another family quarrel and getting your sincere consolation. Just don’t stumble – your position must be clear and reasonable.